Posts tagged ‘emotional intelligence’

The Core Problem in Business – It’s Not What You Think
Brian Whetten, Ph.D., M.A. | July 28, 2009 | 12:07 pm

GM’s bankruptcy. Goldman’s bonuses. AIG’s collapse. It’s easy to look at what’s going on and say “How Stupid!” And this is true – but perhaps not in the way you think. This is because study after study shows that the core problem in business is not a lack of cognitive intelligence. It’s a lack of emotional intelligence.

Yet almost all of our focus, education and training misses this point.

Think about your work for a minute. What – or perhaps who – are the biggest challenges you face? What are some of the tactics you have tried so far to fix them? Do these issues seem stupid sometimes?

Well, they are. Not because the people involved are stupid, but because the core of these issues is usually emotional in nature, and can’t just be solved in our heads. People seem irrational sometimes because the roots of our issues aren’t rational.

The simple truth is this: at their core, 80% of unresolved issues are not intellectual or ideological, but emotional in nature. And while we receive many years of schooling for our minds, very few of us are ever given classes on how to work with our emotions and the emotions of others.

Emotional “blind spots” are often the most prevalent – and most crippling – at the top of the company. Think about Enron. The executives there were known as “the smartest guys in the room” yet they managed to do some remarkably stupid – and illegal – things. Now we could look at them and say they were bad, evil people, and we’d never do such things. But is that really true? In my experience, everyone is doing the best they know how to get their needs met. It’s just that sometimes, our best isn’t enough. And most of the time, this is because we haven’t yet developed enough emotional intelligence to deal with the challenges we face.

In Developing Management Skills, David Whetten and Kim Cameron summarize this research.
A study of UC Berkeley Ph.D.’s over 40 years found that EQ was four times more powerful than IQ in predicting who achieved success in their field – even for hard scientists. A McBer study comparing outstanding managers with average managers found that 90 percent of the difference was accounted for by EQ. In a worldwide study of what companies were looking for in hiring new employees, 67 percent of the most desired attributes were EQ competencies. In a study of highly emotional intelligent partners in a consulting firm … the high EQ partners contributed more than twice as much revenue to the company as did the low EQ partners.

Think about GM. From 1984 – 1999, GM was the #1 company in America. In 2009 it declared bankruptcy. For decades GM was able to hire from among the smartest graduates our schools had to offer. If we were to test the IQ of its people, it would surely be well above average. But over time, it developed a culture that was more and more dysfunctional. The conflicts between labor and management kept getting worse, escalating bureaucracy made change increasingly difficult, and a creeping sense of entitlement sucked away its competitiveness and creativity.

Because here’s the thing. Emotional problems breed. Once an emotional issue has taken root in a company, it grows. It spreads. It infects others. Like a cancer, it eventually metastasizes, to the point where it can kill a company. Saturn was created as a way of reinventing the way GM did business. For a while it worked brilliantly. But eventually the emotional diseases in the parent company took over.

This is why companies report such incredible returns from coaching. Great coaching is all about training people – in direct, pragmatic, applied ways – on how to increase their emotional intelligence. It supports companies in curing the root of their problems, instead of just focusing on the symptoms.

One study of 140 companies showed that they received $5 for each $1 spent on coaching. Another study measured an ROI of 600%. “Asked for a conservative estimate of the the monetary payoff from the coaching they got, these managers described an average return of more than $100,000, or about six times what the coaching had cost their companies.” – Fortune, 2/19/01

In my work as a coach, I’m regularly amazed by the level of hard results that occur when we focus on the “soft” side of the business. As Roger Enrico, a Vice Chairman of Pepsi stated, “The soft stuff is always harder than the hard stuff. Human interactions are a lot tougher to manage than numbers and Profits and Losses.

So how do you work with this? In a series of upcoming columns I’ll be walking through 7 Secrets of Emotional Intelligence. Or if you want, please feel free to jump ahead and download the whole article.

Additional resources are available at http://www.corecoaching.org/resources.html.

Do you have any questions on this topic? If so, please feel free to send them to corecoaching@corecoaching.org and we may answer them in a future column.

The Secrets of High School…
Brian Whetten, Ph.D., M.A. | September 5, 2007 | 5:07 pm

I just returned from my 20th high school reunion, where I was invited to give a short speech to a group of current students, faculty, parents, and alumni. What a difference 20 years makes! My senior English teacher almost broke down in tears when she saw how far we’d all come, and it was a beautiful experience to go back and reconnect with my roots after all this time.

I took this talk as an opportunity to go back and think about what I would have wanted to hear in high school, about how to work with my insecurity and issues. I like to joke that in high school, I was the one that the chess team made fun of. (In talking about this, they agreed, while also being shocked at how much I’d grown and changed). So I had a lot of material to work with. And in doing so, I realized how much these secrets of high school are also some of the key secrets of life.

Some of these secrets:

- Everyone is insecure in high school, but we tend to think that A) we’re not supposed to be, and B) we’re the only one who feels this way. The challenge and secret of high school (and life) lies not in how many challenges and insecurities we have – but in how we face them and deal with them. A key choice point in life is whether we see our challenges as excuses for blame and victim consciousness, or as opportunities for learning and growth. And this is particularly important, because…

- Suffering equals pain times resistance. We all have a certain amount of challenges and pain we will face in life. However, when we fight, deny, or repress our challenges, they get worse and worse and worse. Instead, when we accept them, embrace them, and strive to learn from them, they dissipate fairly quickly. Facing our pain and fear takes courage, and courage is like a muscle that we build through steady, consistent practice. Courage isn’t being fearless. Courage is feeling the fear and doing it anyway – and our insecurities are there as an opportunity for building courage.

- And of course, “I’m rubber and you’re glue. Whatever you say bounces off of me and sticks to you.” Out of the mouths of babes. This grade school taunt turns out to be stunningly deep wisdom, because every time we judge or accuse someone else of something, this is a direct reflection of our own insecurities and self-judgments. Every time. If you feel bad because others are gossiping about you or teasing you, take a minute to think about what they’re making fun of you for, or accusing you of, and then hold a mirror up to these judgments. If someone is teasing you as clumsy or ugly, this is reflecting their own insecurities about not being good enough. If someone is pretending to be all righteous and pure, while accusing others of sin, this is a reflection of their own self-judgments and repressed urges. And the same thing goes for your judgments of others. This is called “The Mirror,” and it provides one of the most powerful tools there is for increased self-awareness and wisdom.

- Others’ upset has nothing to do with you. For the most part, we’re only focused on ourselves when we’re upset, but because of The Mirror, we think that our upset is “out there.”

- Similarly, your upset has nothing to do with them. For when we’re running “I’m upset because…” we’re also avoiding personal responsibility, and pretending to be the victim. But when we play the victim, we’re also giving up our personal power and personal freedom, because if the problem is “out there” then where is the solution? Also out there – when the only person we really can change is our self. (These last two secrets are part of the 7 Secrets of Emotional Intelligence, available for free at www.corecoaching.org – reading time: 45 minutes)

- And finally, the myth of falling in love. The story is that “if I fall in love, that means I’ve found my soul mate, and we’re going to live happily ever after.” When the truth is we are programmed to fall in love with those who can teach us the most – often by triggering our deepest unresolved issues. Like it or not, the more that we have unresolved unconscious wounds, the more that we will be attracted to people who trigger those issues, and cause us to replay the very situations we swore we’d never get involved in again. In order to break this pattern, we have to learn how to love ourselves, and how to move from co-dependence to inter-dependence.

You can view a (crude but effective) video of the speech at: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j6uYAxZ4Juk (viewing time: 10 minutes)
And if you have any adolescents or young adults in your life who might get value from this, please feel free to forward it to them as well.

Love and light,
Brian