In the wake of the financial crisis, there’s been a lot of talk about ethical reform. With the disgrace of so many of “the best and the brightest,” there’s a lot of soul searching going on in government, industry and business schools. Most of this discussion is focused on regulation and rules – it seeks to answer the question “what is good behavior and how can we mandate it?”
This line of questioning is important. But it risks missing the deeper issue, because meaningful ethical reform requires making ethics meaningful.
Meaningful ethical reform requires moving beyond just the “what” question and also addressing the “why”. It requires moving beyond creating lists of behaviors people should comply with to connecting them with values they freely choose to live their lives by. Not out of a sense of obligation, but because they get how these values create meaning. And because they’ve learned concrete tools to deal with the conflicts that inevitably arise as they seek to live a meaningful life.
“Why would people freely choose to live an ethical life?”
Not out of a fear of punishment. A choice made out of fear isn’t a free choice. It breeds surface compliance and hidden rebellion. It creates preachers who rail against sex while having affairs. As Joan Borysenko puts it, “Punishment is an effective way to change behavior, but usually not in the desired direction.” When motivation comes from a place of I should or I must, it’s sourced from fear and guilt. This can keep us from doing something awful, but it can’t inspire us to authentic ethics or authentic leadership, which come from a place of I choose.
Similarly, authentic ethics can’t come just out of a desire for approval. Do you remember the petty cliquishness of high school? That’s what happens when a group of good but insecure people seek to define their self worth according to others’ opinions. A life based on approval seeking quickly degenerates into an empty race for money and status. While our desire for approval can be a force for good – the shaming of investment banking’s excesses is creating a major drive for change – the whims of the crowd are fickle and can reward vice just as easily as virtue.
The primary, enduring reason to freely choose an ethical life is that a meaningful life is an ethical life. The meaning of life comes from growth, giving and connection – three of the primary forms of mature love. Mature love is the foundation of all ethics (i.e. “do unto others as you would have them do unto you”) and a meaningful life is also an ethical life.
If we simplify human needs down to their essence, we all have three basic levels of needs: survival, success and fulfillment (i.e. meaning). We all crave meaning, particularly once we’ve met our basic needs for survival and success. Because of this, we don’t need to convince people that they should live an ethical life. We just need to help them understand – in their whole being – how authentic ethics are an essential aspect of creating the meaningful life they crave.
But – and this is key – ethical behaviors do not necessarily create a meaningful life. This is because authentic ethics are determined not just by what we do, but also by where we do it from. When we do ethical behaviors from a place of fear, guilt or approval seeking, the result is fragile and empty. It’s only when our ethics come from a genuine place of mature love that they create a lasting, meaningful foundation for life.
Yet how many business textbooks talk about love? How many college courses teach authentic leadership? How many high schools teach students practical tools for how to be more loving?
Not nearly enough.
In the past decades, we’ve increasingly bought into the idea that “separation of church and state” means “separation of heart and mind.” Church is where we’re supposed to learn how to love, and school is where we’re supposed to learn how to achieve.
This divorce is at the heart of the current crisis. It’s contributed to a compartmentalization between our personal and professional lives, and to an attitude in business where “anything goes unless it’s forbidden or unprofitable.” So if we want to address the roots of this crisis, we need to learn how to integrate money and meaning – both in our lives, in our businesses, and in our schools.
The practice of integrating money and meaning automatically and consistently brings up inner conflicts. It brings up challenges that can’t be solved just in our heads. It brings forward dilemmas that can only be resolved through deep personal and spiritual growth.
Because of this, there is no such thing as a theoretical class in authentic leadership. Authentic leadership requires integrating body, mind, and spirit. It requires learning how to integrate success and fulfillment, sales and service, money and meaning. It requires learning how to embrace the conflicts in life, and how to use everything as opportunities for learning, upliftment and growth.
This doesn’t mean that our schools need to become more religious. It means they need to become more loving.
Over the past decades, business schools have sought to become ever more scientific. But by increasingly basing their existence solely on the cult of reason, they’ve been feeding the divorce between heart and mind, rather than healing it. In doing so, they’ve been failing our students, failing our businesses, and failing our society.
If we wish to create meaningful ethical reform in business, it requires bringing meaning and love back into education. In particular, it means bringing meaning and love back into business schools. It requires teaching students practical, concrete, psycho-spiritual tools for how to work with their inner conflicts. It requires teaching them how to embrace the challenges that automatically come up as we seek to build businesses that create both money and meaning. It requires renouncing the fundamentalist dogmas of the cult of reason and of the single bottom line. And it requires evaluating our schools not just on whether they produce smart and successful students, but also on whether they produce wise and fulfilled ones.
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